With all of the technology we possess these days it is not hard to stay connected to one another. Emails, social media, texting, Snapchats…you name it. Twenty-four hours a day we are able to get connected and get a preview into other people’s lives. Hey, If I can’t sleep at 3 a.m. I can always scan Facebook to see what everyone else is doing.
The question is….you are always connected, but when was the last time you really made a connection? When can you say that you really had a one-on-one with another person without it just being a “Like” on Facebook or a re-tweet on Twitter. Sometimes it feels like my smart phone is my best friend or my ball and chain, it goes everywhere with me. Sadly though it keeps me from really seeing the world. Connecting with other people, reaching out and saying, “Hi, here I am. How are you?” This makes me feel lonely even when I’m surrounded by people.
I am blessed to have a wonderful husband and a compassionate daughter who bring more joy to my life than I ever thought possible. Sometimes I’m afraid I’m missing all these beautiful connections with them by constantly staring at my phone or even watching the TV, or doing work on my laptop. Recently, I have been freelancing and editing resumes. It was a nice opportunity to work from home, but the amount of time I have spent staring at my laptop horrified me. A little extra money was nice, but not spending time enjoying my little girl and my husband because I was chained to my laptop was most definitely not. So I have cut back. I feel a lot better now. (Side note: If you need help with a resume/paper and it’s not an urgent matter, I am always available for that).
Yesterday, I made a wonderful connection with a dear friend of mine. We went to college together (going on 10 years of friendship here). Amanda is a lovely, sweet person and we have been through a lot together. Most recently, we are now old married ladies and now expecting little ones (her first, my second). It’s amazing how life brings people together. She and I live about 40 minutes apart and now have this whole new wonderful connection to share as our babies grow. We met for lunch and sat at the table talking for almost three hours. I felt light and happy. I made a connection and it was awesome. It is so easy to forget in the glow of a laptop or a cellphone screen that other people are out in the world waiting just like you to make that connection. I can’t wait to spend more time together and share new memories as our children grow up, practically the same age.
So for the new year, I am not hoping for a “new me” just a me that is more productive, motivated, and reaches out to others. I’m tired of my smart phone and my Facebook obsession. I want to really see and really be there instead of just hoping technology can occupy me.
Happy New Year everyone!