Joy


I read an article that really hit home. (I know, I know I am always reading. It’s my thing. I love it). Anyway, the article basically said that the mother was stealing her own joy. How does one steal their own joy? 

She was letting herself get weighed down by anger, pettiness, and pity. She would get frustrated with her children or husband and ruin her own day. 

Guys, I was reading this article and thinking, “it is like she wrote this FOR me.” How many minutes, hours, days have been wasted by holding onto anger or disappointment? I can tell you for sure that it is not pretty.

Yesterday, was one of those days for me. I was disappointed because we had to cancel a trip that we had been planning to take to Florida. The timing just isn’t working out and we will have to go some other time. And, let me tell you I had some BIG emotions about it. I cried and sulked. I was so mad about it. 

The saddest part though is that I spent a Sunday holding onto the negative when I could have been enjoying a day with my family. Why do we steal our own joy? Why is it so hard to let go of the “bad” when all it does is make us sad? I’m not sure.

Today, I have been blessed with a new day. Sophia and I are munching on apples and dancing to The Fresh Beat Band. We read books in bed this morning and snuggled together. This, my friends, is joy. It is joy in the simplest form. We laughed and hugged. I remembered that BIG emotions are okay, but we all have to move on because we could miss the next awesome thing to come along. 

 Xo

Aly

The Post


This is about the hundredth (maybe, fourth) post I have tries to write recently. I’ve started draft after draft and somehow i have managed to lose them all. They were all very insightful and genuine. Maybe one day the ideas will circle back around.

Having two tiny people around (who actually love it when I play, run, act silly) makes it a challenge to write when I want too. The problem with this sentiment is that I, then, do not write even when I have a free moment because it was not on my schedule. Kids don’t understand scheduling. They are full of fun and excitement and delight. They want what they want NOW and who can blame them. So instead of battling it out i stay awake a little bit later. I know, i know, past my bedtime which is usually early.

So, i Haven’t forgotten. I’m still here, happy to write. Hopefully, next time I will hit publish.

Aly

The Quiet Sounds


It is currently 3:47 a.m. I woke up at 1:15 to nurse Max and just haven’t captured the elusive sleep we all crave. For the better part of the last two hours I have been reading and balancing our budget. Now, I am lying here listening to the quiet sounds as my family sleeps peacefully.

Sophia is on my left between her Daddy and I. She asks every night to sleep with us and tonight was that night. She told Richie, “Daddy, you and Momma sleep together and I am all alone in my room!” Who can deny that logic? So here we are all tucked into one room. I can hear little tiny snores, bigger snores, and the rustling of my hungry nursling who is about to wake up again to eat (who needs sleep?)

So, even though I can’t sleep and I’m squished under a toddler while nursing the baby I couldn’t be happier. When the sun comes up life gets crazy.

I promise myself that I will get to my to-do list AND spend more time playing with the kids instead of worrying about that list. I try to focus on being patient instead of getting frustrated after tripping over every single toy we own, flying through the air like a figure skater, and definitely not sticking the landing. I promise myself I will submit that article and update my blog. Instead, I will probably end up dancing to Kidz Bop (I know all the words to every song now), eating way too many pretzels, and  tossing every toy inside the ottoman and calling it clean.

After a successful round of Whole30, changing my eating habits, and losing 10 lbs I have gotten back into opening the fridge, sighing, and eating a bagel because I don’t want to cook.  So when I get up I swear I will cook a full breakfast and wash dishes and create a Pinterest worthy art project to do with Sophia. But for now, I will just enjoy the quiet and the cuddles. I will enjoy the sense of peace I have knowing my little family is all together, all in one place.

And I won’t complain when I am overly tired running on hopes, dreams and pretzels because I am lucky enough to hear quiet sounds (and snores) next to me.

Life Updates


Hey All!

Just wanted to say hello!

We had our son, Maximus, on Memorial Day. So this summer has been hectic adjusting to life with a newborn and getting ready to move into our very first HOME! That’s right we purchased our own home and finally settle in two weeks. Life is finally starting to get back to “normal”.

I have added a page called Freelance Services. If you click on that tab at the top of my blog you can see just a few of the services that I offer. If you would like to hear more about it, please email me for a complete list of services and pricing. I’m more than happy to work with you on anything you need.

I hope to have a link to my portfolio and my pricing list added soon.

Stay tuned for more news!

Aly

Under Construction


Hello All,

It’s been a while, but growing a baby human can be quite exhausting at times. On an exciting front there’s only about 5 weeks left until Baby T makes his way earthside. I know that once he is born things will be even more wonderfully hectic. Between preparing for the baby and house hunting for our new forever home I haven’t been online very much.

Hopefully, there is some more exciting news in the works on the house front, but I don’t want to get ahead of myself yet. Stay tuned!

As many of you know I am in the process of writing my memoir of the adventures Richie and I have shared focusing on a lot of our time in Japan. I’m considering switching gears slightly and focusing a bit more on how anxiety has affected our journey.

I am also in the process of constructing my own website and online portfolio. A friend reached out to me requesting some editing help recently. I realized I don’t have any kind of portfolio or list of services for my freelance work. (I can do anything from ghost writing assistance to editing to constructing professional resumes if anyone is looking for some help).

I’m hoping this blog will be a main focus once I finish my new website so don’t go anywhere! I appreciate all the love and encouragement everyone always gives here and thanks for sticking with me.

Aly

 

 

Writing Begets Writing


So I haven’t written much in the last six months. I seem to go in small spurts of writing every day to not writing at all. It’s one of those simple matters of letting life get in the way. I try not to do that, but it happens anyway.

I’ve noticed that the more I push myself to write (even if its just a blog post here and there), the  more I want to write. Writing is as much a part of me as being a wife and mother are. The words are all floating around inside my soul waiting to be written out. I have honestly felt more relaxed and happy than I have in months when I carve out some time to write each day.

Today was awesome because I was able to put some of my creative writing/editing skills into action. A friend of mine from back in the day (which, is a Wednesday, by the way) reached out to me over social media to see if I could do some editing for his new company blog. Viola, I am a productive member of society today! If it’s possible sometimes I forget how much I love writing and editing. As if the 4 years in undergrad and the 2 plus years in graduate school weren’t enough to tell me that writing is my passion, it’s like my brain just forgets. Then it all comes back to me, my passion (along with being a wife and mother) is to write. As easily as breathing, here come the words, the inspiration, the life force.

Sometimes we all need to be reminded of what we love. Especially those of us with pregnancy brain!

❤ Aly

PS My husband reminds me every day that I should be doing more writing, but sometimes I get distracted by his handsome face and lumberjack beard and forget what he’s saying 😉 love you bug.

Some Happy News in a Sad World


Recently some beloved celebrities have passed away from fights with cancer. Even though we don’t know them personally, it sometimes feels like we did because we became so close with their characters/music. Farewell, Alan Rickman and David Bowie, you have touched the lives of many.

In a sad week for movie and music lovers, I have some joyful news to share. Our family is excited to share that we will be welcoming a beautiful, healthy little BOY come June. Yay! My husband and I were both blessed to grow up with brothers by our side and now our beautiful baby girl gets to experience that same joy.

There is nothing like a brother to tease you, drive you crazy, stand up for you, love you, and be your very first best friend. I’m happy that Sophia will have a brother to stand by her and be her friend for their whole lives. We are also super excited to see where our parenting journey takes us from one great little girl to two awesome kids.

This pregnancy has flown by so far. Here’s to the next 20 weeks or so :). I’m going to enjoy this time with Sophia as an only child and hopefully get a bit of writing in here and there!

Make A Connection


With all of the technology we possess these days it is not hard to stay connected to one another. Emails, social media, texting, Snapchats…you name it. Twenty-four hours  a day we are able to get connected and get a preview into other people’s lives. Hey, If I can’t sleep at 3 a.m. I can always scan Facebook to see what everyone else is doing.

The question is….you are always connected, but when was the last time you really made a connection? When can you say that you really had a one-on-one with another person without it just being a “Like” on Facebook or a re-tweet on Twitter. Sometimes it feels like my smart phone is my best friend or my ball and chain, it goes everywhere with me. Sadly though it keeps me from really seeing the world. Connecting with other people, reaching out and saying, “Hi, here I am. How are you?” This makes me feel lonely even when I’m surrounded by people.

I am blessed to have a wonderful husband and a compassionate daughter who bring more joy to my life than I ever thought possible. Sometimes I’m afraid I’m missing all these beautiful connections with them by constantly staring at my phone or even watching the TV, or doing work on my laptop. Recently, I have been freelancing and editing resumes. It was a nice opportunity to work from home, but the amount of time I have spent staring at my laptop horrified me. A little extra money was nice, but not spending time enjoying my little girl and my husband because I was chained to my laptop was most definitely not. So I have cut back. I feel a lot better now. (Side note: If you need help with a resume/paper and it’s not an urgent matter, I am always available for that).

Yesterday, I made a wonderful connection with a dear friend of mine. We went to college together (going on 10 years of friendship here). Amanda is a lovely, sweet person and we have been through a lot together. Most recently, we are now old married ladies and now expecting little ones (her first, my second). It’s amazing how life brings people together. She and I live about 40 minutes apart and now have this whole new wonderful connection to share as our babies grow. We met for lunch and sat at the table talking for almost three hours. I felt light and happy. I made a connection and it was awesome. It is so easy to forget in the glow of a laptop or a cellphone screen that other people are out in the world waiting just like you to make that connection. I can’t wait to spend more time together and share new memories as our children grow up, practically the same age.

So for the new year, I am not hoping for a “new me” just a me that is more productive, motivated, and reaches out to others. I’m tired of my smart phone and my Facebook obsession. I want to really see and really be there instead of just hoping technology can occupy me.

Happy New Year everyone!

 

 

The Most Wonderful Time of the Year


Hi Everyone!

It’s December (finally? already?)! Another year is coming to a close and I can’t believe how quickly it has gone by. First and most importantly, my little girl is turning TWO in just a few days.  Where did the time go? I’m incredibly amazed at how quickly she has turned from a baby to a smart, loving little kid. She talks up a storm and is a great helper around the house.

Which is wonderful because come June I will need a big helper around the house! We are having our second little miracle! We announced our pregnancy over Thanksgiving and it was met with such joy. There is something special about being able to see the happiness on people’s faces when you announce good news. I will be entering my second trimester in just a few days (14 weeks coming up on Wednesday). As many pregnant ladies know this is a big milestone in a healthy pregnancy. For me, the first trimester has seemed incredibly long because we found out when I was only 3 to 4 weeks along. Technology is amazing these days! With Sophia I was almost 6 weeks before we had our first positive test. Anyway, I’m excited that I’m starting to show and have had several successful doctors appointments.  Baby Choo (like choo choo train) is healthy and growing right on track.

Also, this time of the year I give so much thanks to be home in the States. The holidays always made me homesick when we lived overseas. It’s great to be able to see our family frequently and especially at Christmas. I’m also thankful for my new job. I am able to hone my writing skills, help others, and work from home to be with my baby girl and baby bump.

I hope everyone is well!

Aly